The first time most guys hear about going out an adult xxx date, they probably start having fantasies like kids stuck in a candy store. I can’t say I blame them. The whole idea of going out on a date with no emotional strings attached and one that is focused primarily on physical pleasure is definitely quite attractive to the typical red-blooded all American male.

With that said, there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. In fact, believe it or not, a lot of guys who go out on an adult xxx date, usually fuck things up, at least the first time. This might be hard to believe because, after all, what could go wrong? Isn’t the whole point of this type of date sex? Well, that’s just part of the puzzle. You have to look at the big picture.

The reason why most people screw up on this type of date and fail to get what they are looking for and walk away feeling discouraged, depressed and downright crushed is the fact that they didn’t prepare properly. The proper mindset should be focused on survival. That’s right. You should focus primarily on just merely surviving the date.

Now, this flies in the face of everything you’ve probably read about this type of date. You probably read that people should expect a good time. People should expect to feel good. People should expect all sorts of great stuff. That is precisely the problem. When you come into a situation expecting everything to be positive, then it only takes a small, negative turn of events to totally crush you. This happens all the time. In fact, you don’t even have to go out on adult xxx dates to understand that this is always the rule. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing. Maybe you’re baking a cake, taking a test, showing up for a new job, trying to get a promotion. Whatever the case is, if you have the wrong expectations, you will get crushed. It’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when.

Accordingly, if you are lucky enough to get an adult xxx date, you need to understand that your main focus should be to survive it. It’s not about fantasizing that the chick looks like some sort of Swedish goddess. It has nothing to do with preparing yourself to perform like some sort of stallion. No. Instead, you should focus on simply surviving the date with your mental, emotional and physical faculties intact. So, how exactly do you survive this type of date?

Join the Right Site

The first thing you should do is to stack the odds in your favor. That’s right. You need to join the right website populated by the type of people you want to meet. A lot of guys think that as long as they join any adult dating platform, they will hook up. This is a very faulty mindset. Seriously. This is a fucked up strategy. It’s like downloading Tinder and hoping that all the chicks you’ll meet there are goddesses. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, you’re actually scraping the bottom of the barrel. In many cases, you’re better looking than the chick that you’re going to meet. That’s the bottom line. So, if you truly have a preference regarding the type of women you want to meet, join the right website. The right website, of course, is defined as a site that specifically recruits women that fit your type.

Adopt the Right Mindset

The worst mindset you can ever adopt is an entitlement mindset. Let me break an uncomfortable fact to you. There is no such thing as entitlement. That’s right. You’re not entitled to a good time. Life is unfair. Things often fall apart. Now, I know that sounds discouraging. It might even sound depressing, but that’s reality. If you set up your expectations accordingly, you will never be disappointed. Disappointment really is defined as having your expectations upset, and that’s it. So if you want to have a good time and not get burned, set your expectations very low.

Safety Measures

Always know where the exits are. Always carry protection. And, most importantly, know when to say no. That’s right. This might sound crazy because you’re a guy and you’re going to say this to a woman, but believe me, all sorts of security issues can pop up. So you need to be very, very careful.